We had a really great question come from our facebook group, What's the difference between a fetish and a kink?
In the group I gave a fairly quick and simple answer but I wanted to go a bit more into detail here.
The quick and most basic answer is simply a fetish is something that you need to get you off while a kink is something that is a great addition to the bedroom but not a necessity.
To give an example, a fetish can be something like simple latex, and can range from a small latex glove to a full blown latex outfit.
Does having a fetish mean that you can't get off without it? Depending on the person it might. For the most part you absolutely can get off if you don't include your fetish however it will not be nearly as an enjoyable experience without it.
A kink is very different, and can be something as simple as using a blindfold, which is a wonderful addition to any play but you can and will enjoy yourself just as much without it.
So how and when does a kink become a full blown fetish? That is different for every person, but if you notice that the only time you seem to be enjoying yourself, either by yourself or with a partner, is when you are adding in your kink, it is probably safe to say that that kink of yours has upgraded itself to a full fetish.
Now there are going to be people that scream at the top of their lungs that I am wrong in some way, and for them I very well could be, because that is what their own personal experience is telling them. However, I would argue that those particular people have a kink, not a full fetish.
I believe that there is a huge misconception about fetishes and a lot of people seem to be under the impressions that if they happen to like something that automatically makes it a fetish. I believe that this misconception stems from the overuse of the word fetish to begin with.
I recently decided to set up a google alert for the word fetish and I was shocked at just how often it is used in headlines. I get a new email every single day containing at least 10 new headlines that use the word fetish, most of which have absolutely nothing to do with actual fetishes or even kinks, they are simply using the word because it is trendy.
The word fetish itself seems to be a trendy thing to use to describe any number of interests from climate change to politics and everything in-between lately and I 100% believe that this trend is fueling the misconception fire.
There is a real psychology behind fetishes, which I am not even almost qualified to get into but you can read more about fetishism psychology HERE and HERE if it interests you.
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